#390. Dad, tell me about people who are “self absorbed”.
They focus on themselves, interrupt others, turn conversations back to themselves, and are blinded to the needs of others.
#389. Dad, what does it mean to ” burn your boat?”
Burning your boat is an act of courage that makes it impossible to return to an earlier situation.
#388. Dad, what is “productivity guilt?”
Productivity guilt is the nagging feeling that you are not creating, achieving or working hard enough.
#387. Dad, what causes mistakes?
Mistakes are are often the result of an obsession with perfection
#386. Dad, what is “Mudita?”
“Mudita?” is the principle of taking sympathetic or unselfish joy in the good fortune of others.
#385. Dad, what does “eat the frog” mean?
“Eat the frog” is a metaphor for tackling your most challenging tasks of the day – the ones you are most likely to procrastinate on. […]
#384. Dad, why do we get bored?
We get bored because we fail to see the beauty in the mundane. We forget to appreciate the simple things in life, and we forget […]
#383. Dad, how should we accept people into our lives?
Accept people into your life purely on humanity and character and not nationality or similarity.
#382. Dad, has the pandemic changed you?
It has changed parts of me. I see the pandemic as a moment to reconnect with what is essential in my life.
#381. Dad, what is generous listening?
Generous listening is the ability to truly understand another person by listening with your mind and body.
#380. Dad, what is justice?
Author Omid Safi wrote, “Justice is love, embodied. We cannot speak of love without linking it to justice, nor of justice unless it is permeated […]
#379. Dad, starting my business is a slow process. I want to quit.
Being an entrepreneur takes time. Quitting won’t speed it up.
#378. Dad, what are the signs of low self-awareness?
Never admitting mistakes, criticizing others and being vague about your feelings.
#377. Dad, what really matters in the end?
Only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. — […]
#376. Dad, how do our thoughts change our mood?
Our thoughts are incredibly powerful. Our thoughts bring us down or lift us up. How we think about things literally changes everything!
#375. Dad, what are negative thoughts?
Negative thoughts are the past trying to occupy the present and the future. These thoughts do not represent the present reality.
#374. Dad, what is conditional happiness?
Conditional happiness is the shortest path to misery. I will be happy when I meet a specific outcome is not going to make you happy.
#373. Dad, tell me about masking my emotions
We will benefit from being honest with ourselves about uncertainty, difficulty and moving forward.
#372. Dad, what is clutter?
Anything that does not bring tranquillity and peace to your life is clutter.
#371. Dad, what does perfection look like?
No need to understand what perfection looks like, focus on what better looks like.
#370. Dad, what is “uitwaaien?”
“Uitwaaien” means to go out into nature as a way of clearing your mind.
#369. Dad, is it OK to dislike someone?
We can dislike aspects of someone, yet still love the whole person and focus on their positive qualities.
#368. Dad, is winning the most important thing?
Winning is not the only thing that matters — what you learn about yourself and life during the process, is far more important.
#367. Dad, is 2020 the new normal?
I don’t like the term “new normal. I prefer to see it as an opportunity to change, reimagine and create.
#366. Dad, what is intellectual humility?
The art of questioning your own biases, beliefs and experiences.
#365. Dad, is the goal to be perfect?
The goal is not to be perfect. The goal is to be better than before.
#364. Dad, when are we happiest and effective?
We are happiest and most effective when our minds cease to be time travellers and stay focused on the here and now.
#363. Dad, how do we become who we are?
We become what we expose ourselves to – who we hang out with, what we listen to and how we define success.
#362. Dad, what is the avocado toast problem?
Avocado toast is not the problem. It is about unnecessary expenses that prevent us from achieving our financial goals.
#361. Dad, what is the status game?
Seeking status and looking rich is an expensive game to play. Participation isn’t required.
#360. Dad, how can I be humble when I am in a conversation?
Being humble is not being afraid to be naive. Allow the other person to teach you something new.
#359. Dad, how do I achieve my goals and focus on my values?
You have to do both. Otherwise, your goals will not have any value.
#358. Dad, what is the most important relationship I can have?
No relationship is more important than the relationship you have with yourself.
#357. Dad, what does it mean to be connected?
MLK explained it best: “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly.”
#356. Dad, what does it mean to be a person of colour?
It is exhausting being a person of colour. Beyond discrimination, psychological and social stress are long lasting and damaging.
#355.Dad, which people do you admire most?
The people I admire most are kind and generous and do what they can to make others feel truly seen.
#354. Dad, how has social distancing impacted you?
Social distancing has increased my screen time, decreased my energy and increased my snacking.
#353.Dad, what is the paradox of social distancing?
The paradox of social distancing is that most people have grown closer to their work colleagues, families and neighbours.
#352. Dad, what should our priorities be during a pandemic?
Our priorities should be our sanity, survival and safety of our loved ones
#351. Dad, what is decision fatigue?
When you are unsure what to do and the situation wins.