#431. Dad, what is the difference between values and beliefs?
Beliefs are what you think is true. Values are what you think is important
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#425. Dad, when is ambition healthy versus harmful?
Healthy ambition energizes you and aligns with your values. Harmful ambition depletes you and comes from needing to prove your
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#416. Dad , is there shame in weakness?
We all have weaknesses and we achieve excellence with tremendous help from other people.
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#413. Dad, what is Cheerful Despair?
In our pursuit of meaning, we learn to draw the full value from what is good, regardless of its scale.
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#412. Dad, tell me about famous vs unnoticed
We are drawn to famous events and places, assuming they will be more delightful. Reading novel in the garden can
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#411. Dad, why are small pleasures a big deal?
We tend to prioritize rare and unique experiences, assuming they will bring greater happiness. However, small pleasures—like walking your dog,
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#410. Dad, what is the positive-sum game
A game where the total gains and losses is greater than zero. It’s a game where everyone wins.
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#409. Dad, what is cognitive complexity?
The more difficult a description or sentence is to understand, the more unappealing it becomes.
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#406. Dad, what is the curse of knowledge?
Once we know something, we assume everyone else knows it, too. There are always people to teach and people to
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#402. Dad, how do I become authentically confident?
Becoming authentically confident means becoming comfortable with your moments of insecurity and using it as a source of positive energy.
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#390. Dad, tell me about people who are “self absorbed”.
They focus on themselves, interrupt others, turn conversations back to themselves, and are blinded to the needs of others.
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#386. Dad, what is “Mudita?”
“Mudita?” is the principle of taking sympathetic or unselfish joy in the good fortune of others.
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#382. Dad, has the pandemic changed you?
It has changed parts of me. I see the pandemic as a moment to reconnect with what is essential in
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#381. Dad, what is generous listening?
Generous listening is the ability to truly understand another person by listening with your mind and body.
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#379. Dad, starting my business is a slow process. I want to quit.
Being an entrepreneur takes time. Quitting won’t speed it up.
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#378. Dad, what are the signs of low self-awareness?
Never admitting mistakes, criticizing others and being vague about your feelings.
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#377. Dad, what really matters in the end?
Only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things
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#371. Dad, what does perfection look like?
No need to understand what perfection looks like, focus on what better looks like. https://azharlaher1.substack.com/p/4-dad-what-does-perfection-look-like
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#370. Dad, what is “uitwaaien?”
“Uitwaaien” means to go out into nature as a way of clearing your mind.
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#369. Dad, is it OK to dislike someone?
We can dislike aspects of someone, yet still love the whole person and focus on their positive qualities.
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#368. Dad, is winning the most important thing?
Winning is not the only thing that matters — what you learn about yourself and life during the process, is far more
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#366. Dad, what is intellectual humility?
The art of questioning your own biases, beliefs and experiences.
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#365. Dad, is the goal to be perfect?
The goal is not to be perfect. The goal is to be better than before.
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#360. Dad, how can I be humble when I am in a conversation?
Being humble is not being afraid to be naive. Allow the other person to teach you something new.
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#359. Dad, how do I achieve my goals and focus on my values?
You have to do both. Otherwise, your goals will not have any value.
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#357. Dad, what does it mean to be connected?
MLK explained it best: “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly.”
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#355.Dad, which people do you admire most?
The people I admire most are kind and generous and do what they can to make others feel truly seen.
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#348. Dad, how do I show up every day?
Show up for yourself first, and then you will be in a strong position to show up for others.
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#337. Dad, some days I just want to vent
Be sure to vent about your joys and not only your problems.
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#331. Dad, what is status anxiety?
It is the constant fear of being perceived as “unsuccessful” by society in terms of material wealth.
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