#390. Dad, tell me about people who are “self absorbed”.
They focus on themselves, interrupt others, turn conversations back to themselves, and are blinded to the needs of others.
Humble
#386. Dad, what is “Mudita?”
“Mudita?” is the principle of taking sympathetic or unselfish joy in the good fortune of others.
#382. Dad, has the pandemic changed you?
It has changed parts of me. I see the pandemic as a moment to reconnect with what is essential in my life.
#381. Dad, what is generous listening?
Generous listening is the ability to truly understand another person by listening with your mind and body.
#379. Dad, starting my business is a slow process. I want to quit.
Being an entrepreneur takes time. Quitting won’t speed it up.
#378. Dad, what are the signs of low self-awareness?
Never admitting mistakes, criticizing others and being vague about your feelings.
#377. Dad, what really matters in the end?
Only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. — […]
#371. Dad, what does perfection look like?
No need to understand what perfection looks like, focus on what better looks like.
#370. Dad, what is “uitwaaien?”
“Uitwaaien” means to go out into nature as a way of clearing your mind.
#369. Dad, is it OK to dislike someone?
We can dislike aspects of someone, yet still love the whole person and focus on their positive qualities.
#368. Dad, is winning the most important thing?
Winning is not the only thing that matters — what you learn about yourself and life during the process, is far more important.
#366. Dad, what is intellectual humility?
The art of questioning your own biases, beliefs and experiences.
#365. Dad, is the goal to be perfect?
The goal is not to be perfect. The goal is to be better than before.
#360. Dad, how can I be humble when I am in a conversation?
Being humble is not being afraid to be naive. Allow the other person to teach you something new.
#359. Dad, how do I achieve my goals and focus on my values?
You have to do both. Otherwise, your goals will not have any value.
#357. Dad, what does it mean to be connected?
MLK explained it best: “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly.”
#355.Dad, which people do you admire most?
The people I admire most are kind and generous and do what they can to make others feel truly seen.
#348. Dad, how do I show up every day?
Show up for yourself first, and then you will be in a strong position to show up for others.
#337. Dad, some days I just want to vent
Be sure to vent about your joys and not only your problems.
#331. Dad, what is status anxiety?
It is the constant fear of being perceived as “unsuccessful” by society in terms of material wealth.
#326. Dad, does success make anxiety and depression better?
Success is not a cure for anxiety or depression. Sometimes it makes it worse.
#318. Dad, should I react to every conversation?
Silent acknowledgment works better when people are venting.
#315. Dad, what does Scrooge teach us about generosity?
The generosity of spirit is far more important than giving money.
#314. Dad, what is a “fault finder?”
Somebody who finds fault in everything, complains regularly and does not provide a solution
#313. Dad, criticism is difficult to handle.
Criticism gives rise to uncomfortable emotions. Seeing these emotions as data and not as judgements helps us to be more open to criticism.
#303. Dad, what is Nunchi?
Nunchi is the art of picking up on the mood of any person or environment very quickly.
#299. Dad, how do I impress others?
Living an authentic life where you are genuinely true to yourself every single day will impress others.
#291. Dad, does your car or house determine how wealthy you are?
What you drive and where you live has absolutely nothing to do with your wealth.
#280. Dad, what is specificity?
Specificity is the ability to be specific about what you want, what you say and what you do. This forces clarity.
#279. Dad, how do I apologize?
Acknowledge what you did wrong, express remorse, explain what you will do differently in the future.
#272. Dad, what is moral elevation?
The feeling you get when you witness a virtuous act that makes you want to act virtuous too. Moral Elevation: That Fuzzy Feeling of Being […]
#271. Dad, what is Karma?
Is it true that the universe restores moral order by rewarding and punishing people based on their past actions? Karma: Do we Really Reap What […]
#269. Dad, how do I respond to unfair criticism?
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all
#258. Dad, do I have to know everything?
What matters is not how many things you know, but rather how well you know the things that matter.
#244. Dad, how do I tell my inner critic to f**k off?
Start the day by being true to yourself and trust your gut.
#242. Dad, what happens when I am not present?
DAD: By not being present, we scatter ourselves; and that scattering causes us to look for fulfillment in the wrong places.
#240. Dad, when should I start to worry?
DAD: Never. Worrying doesn’t change outcomes. Worrying ruins your day. Worrying distracts you from the work at hand.
#239. Dad, you speak about “Quiet Leadership”.
Quiet leaders don’t raise their voices. They listen more than they speak.
#213. Dad, tell me about silence
Silence helps us to eliminate distractions from our daily life.
#202. Dad, what is prayer?
Prayer is recognition that we can’t figure out this thing called life, on our own.