#350. Dad, how do I manage my guilt?
Guilt is self-hate. Self-hate destroys optimism. Be kind to yourself every day.
#349. Dad, is it advisable to “just let go?”
Letting go to the point of not caring is actually similar to trying to control everything.
#348. Dad, how do I show up every day?
Show up for yourself first, and then you will be in a strong position to show up for others.
#347. Dad, what is grace?
Grace is the ability to find peace regardless of your capacity to control your circumstances
#346. Dad, what is the difference between delusional optimism and realistic optimism?
Pretending everything is fine is not the same as knowing you’re going to be OK.
#345. Dad, what is the best average day for you?
A low-stress day. Quality time with family and watching my favourite sports team.
#344. Dad, some people take pleasure in making me feel bad.
Successful, happy and emotionally balanced people don’t have time to shit on other people. Always be kind.
#343. Dad, I focus too much on yesterday and tomorrow?
Obsession with yesterday leads to regret and a constant focus on the future breeds anxiety.
#342. Dad, can anger be useful?
Anger can be useful when it is used to defend the innocent.
#341. Dad, are habits developed all at once?
Drip by drip, day by day. Habits lead to commitments and commitments create learning.
#340. Dad, how do you know if somebody has low EQ?
They blame others for their problems.
#339. Dad, how do I get through these dark days?
The best way to combat stress and anxiety is to focus on one positive thought after another until you are drowning in positivity.
#338. Dad, why do some people avoid happiness?
Some people avoid happiness because they fail to be grateful for the little things.
#337. Dad, some days I just want to vent
Be sure to vent about your joys and not only your problems.
#336. Dad, what is the law of “diminishing gratitude?”
When you take everyday blessings for granted.
#335. Dad, how can I find consistency?
Find consistency by focusing on what you can control and influence each day.
#334. Dad, I don’t know what the truth is anymore?
Too much information can lead to the truth being sacrificed. However, the truth does not cease to exist when it is forgotten.
#333. Dad, dealing with a pandemic is disheartening.
Yes, it is painful and debilitating. However, the pain can be mediated by a sense of gratitude and passion for being alive.
#332. Dad, what does “living slow” mean?
Living slow means listening to your body and giving it the rest it deserves. It means refusing to reach a level of exhaustion.
#331. Dad, what is status anxiety?
It is the constant fear of being perceived as “unsuccessful” by society in terms of material wealth.
#330. Dad, How do I reinvent myself?
In order to become someone different, you must do something different.
#329. Dad, how do I make progress?
Simply make decisions. Without making decisions, you will remain stagnant, lacklustre and unfocused.
#328. Dad, what is Sitzfleisch ( sit-flesh)?
In German, if someone ‘has a lot of Sitzfleisch’, it means they can endure lengthy or boring tasks until the tasks are completed.
#327. Dad, what is the path of least resistance
It’s about finding the most fruitful moments and opportunities and trusting the process.
#326. Dad, does success make anxiety and depression better?
Success is not a cure for anxiety or depression. Sometimes it makes it worse.
#325. Dad, should I only plan for the future?
Designating time to plan for the future is essential, as is reflecting on and learning from the past.
#324. Dad, I have so many disappointments.
The quality of your life depends on how you handle disappointments.
#323. Dad, I am happy with the current version of myself.
If you are happy with the current version of yourself, perhaps the question to ask is: How can I be better than before?
#322. Dad, tell me about new beginnings.
A new beginning may be the thing you need to find purpose.
#321. Dad, should I only focus on my goals?
Focus on growth rather than goals. Have a growth mindset and the goals will follow.
#320. Dad, I have to deal with so many problems?
Think a little less about managing your problems and a little more about managing your mindset.
#319. How do I build my mental strength muscles?
Mental strength is built through small, daily victories. It’s the individual choices we make daily that build our “mental strength” muscles.
#318. Dad, should I react to every conversation?
Silent acknowledgment works better when people are venting.
#317. Dad, is it OK to shop on Boxing day?
Yes, as long as you temper your spending and don’t go into debt.
#316. Dad, what does Charles Dickens’s classic story, “A Christmas Carol”, teach us about money?
True wealth is not about money.
#315. Dad, what does Scrooge teach us about generosity?
The generosity of spirit is far more important than giving money.
#314. Dad, what is a “fault finder?”
Somebody who finds fault in everything, complains regularly and does not provide a solution
#313. Dad, criticism is difficult to handle.
Criticism gives rise to uncomfortable emotions. Seeing these emotions as data and not as judgements helps us to be more open to criticism.
#312. Dad, how do I like myself more?
Resist looking back in regret and embrace your strengths.
#311. Dad, sometimes I feel lost
You may feel lost, but you are not alone. Ask for help and let go of the idea that you have to make a perfect […]