#290. Dad, is there one standard for “success?”
We must define “success” on your own terms. Otherwise, society will decide for us – and we will always fall […]
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#289. Dad, tell me about judgment.
No matter what you do or say, you will be judged. So, why not be true yourself.
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#288. Dad, tell me about failure and self-worth.
Failure does not determine your self-worth. Only you do.
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#287. Dad, is change necessary?
Yes. Without change, there would be no butterflies.
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#286. Dad, what is wabi-sabi?
Wabi-sabi is the Japanese philosophy of embracing the beauty of imperfection.
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#285. Dad, tell me about Remembrance Day
Remembrance day is a day to reflect and show gratitude to all those who served to protect us.
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#284. Dad, some people may not like what I have to say
Don’t hide your message because some people won’t like it.
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#283. Dad, do I only improve by moving forward?
Eliminating mistakes is an under-appreciated way to improve.
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#282. Dad, what is “Hofstadter’s law?’
Hofstadter’s law states that everything always takes longer than expected. Therefore, build in a buffer to meet your deadline.
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#281.Dad, what is catastrophizing?
When you build a crisis in your mind and expect everything to go wrong.
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#280. Dad, what is specificity?
Specificity is the ability to be specific about what you want, what you say and what you do. This forces
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#279. Dad, how do I apologize?
Acknowledge what you did wrong, express remorse, explain what you will do differently in the future.
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#278. Dad, do I need external validation to recognize my success?
Self-esteem and self-worth only come from the inside and other people’s validation should not matter
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#277. Dad, can I always be perfectly happy?
There is no magic bullet to happiness. There will always be discomfort and worry.
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#276. Dad, tell me about self doubt.
It is the feeling of panic and anxiety at the idea of failure.
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#275. Dad, what is a “peaceful life?”
A “peaceful life” is the removal of ongoing stress.
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#274. Dad, how do I know if I am in love?
You will know because it’s deliberate and conscious. Love is an act, not a feeling.
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#273. Dad, what are the origins of “Trick or Treat?
It started with the Scottish Halloween custom of “guising”. Children disguised in costumes and went from house to house for
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#272. Dad, what is moral elevation?
The feeling you get when you witness a virtuous act that makes you want to act virtuous too. Moral Elevation:
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#271. Dad, what is Karma?
Is it true that the universe restores moral order by rewarding and punishing people based on their past actions? Karma:
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#270. Dad, who should I have as a mentor?
Somebody you can trust, has high integrity and has reliable judgement.
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#269. Dad, how do I respond to unfair criticism?
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all
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#268. Dad, what is emotional self-reliance?
I like Mark Manson’s definition: “The ability to see one’s own flaws and be accountable for them.” https://azharlaher1.substack.com/p/4-dad-what-is-emotional-self-reliance
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#267. Dad, what causes unhappiness?
Our own unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others makes us unhappy.
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#266. Dad, tell me about financial discipline.
Financial discipline fosters character traits like self control, prudence, and patience.
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#265. Dad, what is Wu-Wei?
Wu-Wei is action through non action. Letting go and letting things unfold. It is the opposite of trying to control.
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#264. Dad, I feel overwhelmed.
Ask yourself what is the minimum I can do. Then, just do that.
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#263. Dad, I have difficulty saying “No”
When you say “NO”, you are saving space for “YES”.
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#262. Dad, what is a quick way to simplify my life?
Identify what is most important to you. Eliminate everything else.
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#261.Dad, how do I manage my anger?
The more you understand someone, the less you can be angry with them.
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