I like Mark Manson’s definition: “The ability to see one’s own flaws and be accountable for them.” https://azharlaher1.substack.com/p/4-dad-what-is-emotional-self-reliance
No need to understand what perfection looks like, focus on what better looks like. https://azharlaher1.substack.com/p/4-dad-what-does-perfection-look-like